Musings from the Moonroom

Thoughts on Art, Inspiration, Creativity and Spirit

A Gold Star Day


Today is my 45th birthday.  I’m not sure if I ever thought about being in my forties when I was younger.  You know, when you’re in your 20’s and your 40’s sound so far away.  Actually, I like being in my 40’s.  It feels like an age that fits me.  In your 20’s you’re busy trying to figure out who you are.  In your 30’s you’re trying to forget your 20’s and the dumb things you did.  And then the 40’s came and I finally felt comfortable with who I am.

A few weeks ago I was writing in  my journal on some random thoughts that crept in while I was feeling blue.  I was thinking about default triggers, those random thoughts, beliefs, or feelings that pop into your head, that are set off by some button that was triggered.

In my thoughts I went way back to grade school to consider what made me happy as a child and when I had my first encounter with an adult who squashed my creative impulses.  During this stroll down memory lane I remembered my kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Sibley and how we celebrated birthdays in her class.  How I loved Mrs. Sibley’s class.  She was kind and caring and mostly patient with us 5 and 6 year old kids.

Kindergarten was a new and fascinating experience.  I was proud that I didn’t cry when my Mom dropped me off on the first day of school.  I remember the cloak room with individual hooks for hanging our coats and spaces for our winter boots.  The cloak room had dark wood panel walls.  Funny that I can still see the grain of the wood.

Birthday Crown

Our classroom was bright with lots of windows and it was always decorated for every season and holiday.  And when we celebrated birthdays, the birthday boy or girl sat in the middle of a circle while Mrs. Sibley led the class in singing Happy Birthday.  And on the birthday boy’s or girl’s head she placed a construction paper crown.  On the crown she had written your age and surround it with colored foil stars.  After singing happy birthday we shared treats of cupcakes or cookies brought in by our mothers or another family member.

Those were the best birthdays.

After recalling this memory, I was struck by how great it felt on those gold star days.  Not just because you were the center of attention for a period of time but for the happiness that came from wearing that crown.  Not just from wearing that crown but for the sense of accomplishment that came from seeing the foil stars.  Wow! This is big. This day is important.

And then I thought, why isn’t every day be a gold star day?  A day where everything we do, no matter how big or small, gives us a sense of accomplishment.

And how do we get that sense of accomplishment?  Through gratitude, through appreciation, through smiling at strangers and at ourselves. By telling someone you love them. By scooping the cat’s litter box. By laughing, even though you want to yell, when your child does something irritating. By not honking or not giving the finger to the driver that cut you off.

I’ve made “Have a Gold Star Day” one of my mantras.  I posted it inside my medicine cabinet so I’ll see it every morning and every night.  It reminds me to find accomplishment in all I do.  It reminds me to be grateful and appreciative.  And yes, it reminds me of my birthday crown.

9 thoughts on “A Gold Star Day

  1. Amy,

    Doug and I want to wish you a very happy birthday today!! You look great in your “gold-star hat!”

    Love, Paula

  2. Happy Birthday Amy and just wait until you are in your 50’s, I find it is even better than my 40’s as I’ve experienced more gold star days. Just found your website and I am enjoying it immensely.

  3. Fabulous crown, Amy! One of my best gold star days was the day that you and I became friends. I hope that you had a wonderful birthday!!!
    {{{{{{Birthday Hugs}}}}}}

  4. ((((( AMY ))))) I love the crown and I love it on YOU.. I hope you had a fantastic birthday that you so much deserve.

  5. Happy Belated Birthday Amy!! Being in your 40’s is the new 30’s! Hope you had a good one and can I borrow your crown in a few months?
    Time sure fly’s when your living life!

  6. Happy Belated Birthday, Amy !!! My hubby turned 45 on Oct. 9th ! It’s been a long while since I reached that milestone, and the big 5-0 is also starting to recede into the distant past, LOL !
    I agree, every day should be a gold star day…..I hope the coming year has many gold stars for you!

  7. Thanks everyone for your well wishes and hugs. Hugs back {{{ }}}.

    Cat, you certainly can borrow the crown. It is even fun to wear it on any day; not just birthdays.


  8. Late, but happy birthday. Gold Star Day–great idea! I used to give my college-level student stickers, had a whole semester where I was just on that with every assignment… I thought it was great, but many of them felt I was being too “elementary”: didn’t I know they were adults? Sad to say, actually, since I was having a ball doing it. You’ve inspired me to go out and get some more and plan on giving them out next semester–for my own fun, if not theirs! Thanks!

  9. Hi Pearl,

    Isn’t it funny when we’re in college and we really want to walk away from all those things we think are childish only to remember them fondly as we get older? I think it is a great idea and hope your students next semester will also embrace it.


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