Good Monday dear readers. Here in the states we are preparing for the Thanksgiving Holiday this week. A time for gathering with family or friends, giving thanks for all that is abundant in our lives, sharing good food, and enjoying some football games.
It is rather ironic that this week’s mindfulness practice focuses on time-being on time. Thanksgiving Day can be a day of rushing around, driving to our destinations and scarfing down too much food. Heck, just the run up to the big feast day can be fraught with anxiety as we gather ingredients for recipes, wine or beer for the celebration, and coordinating all the activities.
But what if we practiced being on time this week? What if we were mindful of not only our time but others time as well?
Here are some things to consider with this practice:
- What does “being on time” mean to you?
- What arises in your mind when you are late?
- What arises in your mind when other people are late?
We all know people who are always on time for events or arrive before an event starts. And we all know people who are “perpetually late” for everything. Some people prefer being on time and grow irritated with those who arrive late. Some people arrive late because they don’t like to wait for an event to begin or they feel awkward if they are the first person to arrive for a meeting or party.
Though this week’s practice relates to time, it is also about mind-states and habitual patterns. What Dr. Bays’ refers to as the “constructed self.” If we think highly of ourselves, we may begin to think that our time is worth more than other people’s time. So we’re the last to arrive because “we have so many important things to do” and don’t want to waste our time sitting around and chatting.
Or maybe we’re terribly shy. We arrive late so we don’t have to look people in the eye, find a place to sit, and initiate conversation.
And then there is the favorite response “there is never enough time” or “I need more time.” Well, how much time would be enough? How much time would be too much?
When it comes to time, we divide our life into chunks-chunks called time. Time of the future, time of the past.
What about-you know what I’m going to say-the present moment?
When we are not thinking and are simply aware, the present moment is all that there is. Time becomes irrelevant. When we live in more awareness than in thinking, time seems to adjust so that there is exactly enough time for each thing to be accomplished.
This week, practice being on time. Practice being in the present moment-for the present moment is all that there is.
Reflection: In the present moment, there is always plenty of time. –Unknown
And, of course-I’m late, I’m late, for a very important date. No time to say hello, goodbye. I’m late, I’m late, for a very important date. -The White Rabbit
November 21, 2012 at 12:00 am
Oh I hate being late to anywhere. This is such a good reminder. I wonder sometimes why I don’t give myself enough time to get to my destination. I always think I have enough time. It slips away.
November 25, 2012 at 7:34 pm
I know what you mean, Judy. I don’t like being late either. Yet sometimes I get caught up in whatever it is I’m doing and next thing I know, I’m leaving later than I intended. Now I try to set timers that go off a few minutes before I need to leave.