It has been a little quiet here at Musings from the Moonroom. While some experience March Madness, I’ve been going through a bit of a slump and not feeling very chatty these last few weeks. This usually happens to me during the month of February. Something to do with the grey weather I suppose.
This time my March Doldrums had nothing to do with the weather. It had more to do with disappoint in plans I made. Plans that never materialized or didn’t turn out the way I’d hoped. One disappointment after another left me wallowing in self-pity. I started to question myself and my plans. “What’s the point?” I’d ask. “Why bother anymore. I did what ‘the experts’ suggested and still nothing happened.”
I definitely exceeded my recommended 15 minute pity-party. In fact, I was starting to have a pity festival!
This attitude was not conducive to creating.
In place of creating, I attended Jennifer Lee’s 10 day Right Brainers in Business Video Summit which was a fun event. This was Jen’s second year hosting the summit. It features a different speaker each day accompanied by a chat feature. The event is free and you have access to the videos for 48 hours after the live event. Jenn also offers two different upgrade options that give you unlimited access to the videos and other goodies.
This year’s speakers included Mark Silver, Lindsay Wilson, David Goldsmith, Tara Gentile, Hiro Boga, Elizabeth Marshall, Alison Marks, Jeremie Miller, Chelsea Moser, and Jen Louden. Topics ranged from heart-centered selling, social media, and legal basics to earning money, spirituality in business, organization and technology.
Some of my take-aways from this event:
- make a connection
- post on Facebook in the morning & ask a question
- if you need a lawyer, get all your thoughts down on paper first
- know what sells
- know how much you make
- be comfortable with the value of your product or service
- tap into the wisdom of your inner resources
- what do you want to achieve with your marketing?
- define what your organizing first
- what is your message?
- a lousy first draft is better than no draft
- you need to invest in yourself first in order to grow
- look at each day; are you trying to do too much?
Bench Pressing Away the Doldrums
That last point (are you trying to do too much?) was made a few times during the summit by different speakers. The more I heard it, the more I realized that part of my problem was trying to do too much. I realized that while I was spreading my attention over at least five areas in my business, I had drifted from my original focus for the year. And we all know that when you try to divide your energy over too many areas, something is going to suffer.
During this time I also pulled out my materials from Christine Kane’s Uplevel Your Life workshop. I took the workshop in 2009. I’m sure Christine has made some changes and upgrades since then, but the basic bones of the program remain consistent. I started to get clearer on my intention for myself and my business. I returned to writing my gratitudes, gifts, and gains. And I started de-cluttering (the infamous, never ending clutter; it’s not just physical clutter either.)
In just a few short days, I began to feel my doldrums lift. Energy started to shift back to the positive and opportunities started to present themselves. The last 10 days have felt a bit more manageable. And I have started creating again (updates soon to follow.)
Bench pressing away the doldrums didn’t come easy. Some days it felt like I was pushing 500lb weights off my spirit. I really was concerned about staying stuck in this mindset. I simply had to kick myself in the pants, listen to my inner voice, and get clear on what I was doing and where I was going. Will the rest of the year be easy-going? Probably not. But I’m hopeful that putting some systems into place will make any future doldrums a little easier to bear.
March 21, 2012 at 1:53 pm
Hi Amy, I’m sending you a virtual hug {{{{{HUG}}}}}} and a favorite quote by Pema Chodron: “When things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize that we are on the verge of something.” A toast to the verge of something! -Karen
March 27, 2012 at 8:13 pm
Karen, thank you for the virtual hug and the quote from Pema. I love the quote & am going to write it on my white board.
March 21, 2012 at 7:56 pm
Enjoy your process of just being creative. I had too many books surrounding me to give me directions on how to create, feel better about myself and other mumbo jumbo.. too much information overload. I tried and pushed too hard to just be different than who I am and it just made me feel worse for what I didn’t or couldn’t do. Comparing myself to everyone one else that was successful or reading that book or listening to that pod cast and even taking classes everyone else was taking. I took that pressure off of myself and if I decide I want to take a next step, I’ll call my friend, Amy. 1-800-CALLAMY.
March 27, 2012 at 8:14 pm
Judy you can always make me laugh. We’ve shared a lot with our ups and downs in creativity. Thanks for your kind words.