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Truthfully Speaking


In my limited time to visit other blogs these past few weeks, I’ve noticed a minor topic trend: speaking the truth and/or speaking positively.

The first post in this regard came from Christine Kane.  In late October she posted on going complaint free and encouraged her readers to join in.  This is truly a challenge and a good one.  Christine also recently posted a few solutions for those of us finding it difficult to remain complaint-free.

Alyson Stanfield also posted on ArtBizBlog on speaking truthfully and using kind words; so essential today.

Both posts reminded me about the yoga of speech; that is, to become conscious of what comes out of your mouth.

In the first step of becoming conscious of what you say, try to notice not just what you say but how you say it (i.e. the tone of voice.)  Do your words create emotional residue?  How do you feel after certain remarks?  How do other people react?

The second step involves self-inquiry.  Ask yourself “what makes me say what I say?”  Unexpressed anger, grief, or longing?  Do your words mask what you really want to say?  How do your words affect people?

Remember the saying “If you can’t think of anything nice to say, don’t say it?”  The yoga of speech offers these three questions to ask yourself before you speak:

Is this true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?

By asking yourself these three questions, especially in the heat of a conversation, you give yourself pause.  In the silence of this moment you empower yourself; you empower your speech.  And out of this silence you may find wisdom.

To read more about the yoga of speech, visit here


3 thoughts on “Truthfully Speaking

  1. Thank you, Amy. I struggle with the yoga of speech constantly. These three questions are always helpful. They require one to stop and think rather than to open one’s mouth immediately (or, in this case, to put one’s fingers to the keys and push send immediately).

  2. Hi Amy,
    Great post! As I get older and hopefully wiser, I find myself choosing my words a lot more carefully but this is something I need to be conscious of all of the time. I think it has a lot to do with mindfully living in the moment, another challenge. Thanks for the link and the questions. Very interesting article. The questions remind me of a favorite phrase of mine from Dr. Wayne Dyer: “Do you want to be right or do you want to be kind?” Too many people strive for the former and focus on that exclusively so they might not pay careful attention to their words in their quest to be right.
    I saw Christine’s post on going complaint-free and have read of others taking that pledge. Every time I think about it, I hesitate from actually making that commitment and I wonder why. Some of my colleagues at work simply said that they’d never be able to do that. Period. And that was that. I keep thinking about it though so it is definitely seeping into my day-to-day existence.

  3. Hi Alyson & Karen,

    Alyson, you bring up a good point and that is email communication. Email is a wonderful piece of technology but it can also be very harmful. It is so easy to pound out a response without thinking about our reply first. And we never know how the recipent will “hear” the email in his/her head when it is read.

    Karen, I know what you mean about getting older and reflecting more on the words that come out of our mouths. How interesting that some people automatically feel they could not go a day without complaining. I admit that I didn’t take the pledge but the simple act itself of not complaining is also lurking in my head.

    Thanks for writing.

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